DAY 10 – AWESOME LIFE

 

Are you ready to be AWESOME?

Feeling resistance to those words? Trace it back and do a few rounds of Tapping. Remember, your brain is always keeping you safe and in alignment with your clan and your subconscious beliefs. Have you been conditioned to play small? What bad thing will happen if you shine? This is a whole Tapping session in itself! Tap on all the times you were told to be humble, not stand out, or maybe when you stood out things went wrong. Working with a trained practitioner is an amazing gift to yourself as they will identify all the parts, pieces, events, conditioning, memories and patterns related in a 2-hour session and move you to where you want to go. This is neuroplasticity at work. New neural pathways will be forged in line with your authentic self and desires. 

We also have to give ourselves permission to change. It may feel uncomfortable at first to embrace your new, true self. Who will you be? How will this affect those around you? This is a journey to truth and freedom. It gets easier with each step. More Tapping will keep you on track.

Sometimes it’s hard to let go of our stories. These may be stories of being a victim, and you’ve built a fortress from it. It defines you. It’s hard to let go the pain and forgive those who’ve wronged us. FORGIVENESS IS AN ACT OF HEALING. Forgiving others and forgiving yourself. It means letting go anger, bitterness and guilt; putting it behind you and moving on towards peace. Keep Tapping and letting go bit by bit, story by story.

FIND THE GIFTS AND WISDOM FROM YOUR ADVERSITIES.

For example, in my own life, I did not have a voice for so long and pleased everyone above myself. This has taught me to value myself more and a love of freedom. What a gift! I now see it in a positive way. I’m now helping others to do the same.

Now it’s time to…

DREAM WILDLY AND SET GOALS – oh the power of it.

Write down your goals and dreams in your happy journal. Create a vision board (or create one on Pinterest) of what you want with pictures, quotes, affirmations and how you want to feel. What will you have to believe about yourself in order to have this? Tap on any resistance. Tap on all the ways you know how you can’t have what you want. All the related memories you have from the past.

Writing down your goals turns dreams into reality.

I wrote down my goals in a coaching group three years ago. Everything I wrote down came true! This included walking the Camino de Santiago and becoming a FasterEFT practitioner. It made me sit up and realise how powerful the act of intention is and writing down what you desire. As you start to let go of unwanted patterns, programs and negative beliefs, you will clear your path of resistance.

An amazing example of the power of writing down goals, is Debbie Millman’s story. The renowned designer and educator wrote down in detail how she wanted her life to look in 10 years time. She realised 10 years later it had all come true. 

READ HER STORY HERE

Finally, there is ACTION. Decide what you are going to do and do it. Keep stepping towards authentic you and what you want, bit by bit, action by action. If not now when? Honour your one wild and precious life by living fully and wholeheartedly.

CONGRATULATIONS ON SHOWING UP FOR THESE 10 DAYS OF DISCOVERY. YOU ARE ON YOUR WAY TO LETTING GO AND CREATING YOUR BEST LIFE. YOU’RE EXACTLY WHERE YOU’RE MEANT TO BE ON THIS AWESOME LIFE JOURNEY.

  • If you’re ready for change and you need some extra help, let’s get together in person or on Skype.

 

Thank you so much for being here.

Darene

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DAY 9 – WATCH YOUR MIND

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Mindfulness, affirmations, gratitude and the art of keeping a happy journal

Techniques used in eutaptics/ FasterEFT bolster the practice of MINDFULNESS in your every day life.

Professor Mark Williams, the Director of the Oxford Mindfulness Centre, and years of research on mindfulness, says when you train in mindfulness, brain patterns change.

Mindfulness activates the compassion centre of the brain without activating the stories, which often turns into overthinking or rumination, he says. Professor Williams says people often develop a tunnel vision where they can’t see solutions to problems. Avoiding thoughts makes it worse.

If people are not mindful the amygdala, where the stress response is located, is overactive. Practising mindfulness “dampens down” the amygdala so people are less likely to be stressed and less likely to respond to own negative thinking.

WATCH Professor Williams on the science of mindfulness.

AFFIRMATIONS

Whatever you are thinking and telling yourself has tremendous impact on your life. You For example, by saying “I’m always late”, or ”I’m useless at Maths”, your are reinforcing it.  Dr Bruce Lipton and Dr Joe Dispenza advocate using positive affirmations through REPETITION to bypass the conscious mind and create change in the subconscious mind. You are always listening! Affirmations also serve to boost self-esteem and confidence. TIP: Always say them in the present as by doing so you are telling your mind that this is already happening, that you are already this person. FEEL the statements to be true. If there is resistance, Tap on it till it feels like its your truth. CREATE A LIST OF AFFIRMATIONS AND SAY THEM TO YOURSELF every morning and evening just before you go to sleep when you are in Theta brain waves, which means the subconscious is receptive.

Examples: I AM LOVED, I AM LEARNING EVERY DAY, I AM FULL OF ENERGY, I AM HEALTHY, I AM JOYOUS.

GRATITUDE

Practising gratitude has endless benefits. Being thankful regularly makes you feel more alive, sleep better, experience positive emotions and build a stronger immune system. The world’s leading scientific expert on gratitude, psychologist Robert Emmons says it’s good for our minds, bodies and relationships. 

WATCH him talk about the benefits of gratitude

START A HAPPY JOURNAL

Integral to the eutaptics/ FasterEFT journey is keeping a happy journal. This is a dedication to yourself. It’s about building gratitude and mindfulness, and it’s about recognising and noting the good things in your life. IT’S ABOUT PRACTISING FEELING GOOD. And of course, what you practise, you get more of.

Your journal becomes a powerful and meaningful collection of happy memories, thoughts, positive affirmations, photos, letters, quotes that you like, goals dreams and what you’re grateful for.

The feeling states we all desire are universal. They include love, joy, peace, belonging, security and comfort.

GENERATING THESE FEELINGS IS THE MOST CREATIVE THING YOU CAN DO WITH YOUR LIFE. Get clear on how you want to feel. Then, do stuff that makes you feel that way.

Danielle La Porte 

DAY 8 – LET’S TAP

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You are what your deep, driving desire is.
As your desire is, so is your will.
As your will is, so is your deed.
As your deed is, so is your destiny.
— Brihadaranyaka Upanishad IV.4.5

 

 It’s time to reinforce some of the finer points of Tapping.

These are some common questions that clients ask:

What does Tapping work on?

How do I know I’m doing it right?

When should I Tap?

 

YES, TAPPING WORKS ON ALL PROBLEMS. IT CHANGES HOW YOU HOLD A PROBLEM IN YOUR MIND. DETERMINATION AND PERSISTENCE ALWAYS WIN OUT WHEN YOU DECIDE TO TAP AND BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.

It’s the most zippy self-help tool because it helps regulate emotions and gives you back control. It calms the physical reactions in the body/ the stress response and transforms how you hold negative experiences and memories. As you Tap you guide yourself towards better beliefs. Thousands of people across the world have had great results and personal transformation. And most of them keep Tapping as problems arise.

Being a human being means we are constantly growing. Tapping helps us adjust.

It’s very simple and easy.

Choose a problem and decide what you DON’T WANT and WHAT YOU DO WANT.

HOW DO YOU KNOW IT’S A PROBLEM FOR YOU? HOW DOES IT SHOW UP IN YOUR LIFE? IDENTIFY WHAT IT IS.

Notice what is bothering you. How big is it? What sensations do you have in your body when you think about it?

AIM AT THE PROBLEM

Look at the image/ faces, tone of voice, feeling.

You can Tap on a sensation in your stomach or a headache. You don’t have to know where it came from.

Use two fingers to Tap the following points, while focusing on the feeling of your fingers on your skin:

  • between your eyebrows
  • beside your eye
  • under your eye
  • just below your collarbone

While you are Tapping, say “Let it go”.

You can also add “It’s safe to let it go. Just let it all go.”

Also, if you don’t know why you feel bad you can say:  “whatever it means, whatever it represents. I let it go.” You are instructing the subconscious – it knows what it is.

Note: It doesn’t matter which side you tap – you can do either side, or both if you like. These points are where Chinese meridian points are located and connected to the bodies’ organs which produce a stress reaction.

Grab your wrist (more meridian points), take a deep breath, blow it away, and say “PEACE” – and go to a PEACEFUL MEMORY/ PLACE AND BE THERE. Run the good feeling through your body.

Go back to your problem and notice how it’s changed.

Do you feel different?

Is the intensity of the feeling different?

Does the memory look or sound different?

Just notice.

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Usually your mind will lead you where you need to go and bring up memories. Tap wherever the mind leads you. You can go to a memory and just Tap on it, for example, when your father yelled at you. Remind yourself that it’s over and it’s not real anymore. Make a decision to release it. Keep Tapping and it won’t play the same eventually. You are changing the way you represent it. Tap till you “flip” it and everyone is happy in the memory. It can’t play the same way again.

Change your story and change your life. Your subconscious mind is working on your behalf. Choose a great story for your life. Your life will follow your new script.

Always repeat until the feeling or memory has ‘flipped” from negative to positive, and the pictures, words, sensations are positive. 

YOUR WORLD IS CHANGING.

When to Tap….Tap in the heat of the moment, Tap after the event or choose a topic/ memory from the past to work on.

WATCH HERE what to say when you Tap and how to aim, with Robert G. Smith…

WATCH HERE about changing/ updating/ reconsolidating memories explained by Robert.

CONGRATULATIONS!

YOU ARE TAPPING YOUR WAY TO EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE.

DAY 7 – SELF LOVE

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“All wonders you seek are within yourself.”

– Sir Thomas Browne

 

FasterEFT embraces healing attitudes which include self approval, acceptance and self love.

It recognises that the choice to not love yourself originates from all the records and proofs held inside the subconscious mind and is ultimately keeping you safe in some way. This can be changed by changing what you hold inside and your references to love. You can love yourself in a whole new way.

Self love is a goal for ultimate healing and FasterEFT helps you achieve it.

The greatest legacy the late Louise Hay left the world is teaching the art of SELF LOVE.

Louise was the founder of Hay House and author of many books, including You Can Heal Your Life. Notably she led support groups for people living with HIV/AIDS, teaching self-love and acceptance.

She advocated connecting with yourself through mirror work and being your own cheerleader. Looking into a mirror each morning and saying “I love you” was key. She said you are talking to your inner child who always wants love. “Ask: What can I do to make you happy today?” 

In her work, Louise urges you to stop criticising and rather try approving of yourself – the key to positive changes. “Be willing to forgive. Love is always the answer to healing and health. Release the past and forgive everyone.” 

She said the person you need to forgive the most is the one you find hardest to let go of. It had nothing to do with condoning behaviour; it’s just letting the whole experience go and returning to the present moment. They were also in pain doing the best they could with the knowledge they had. “To heal we need to change our thinking, to forgive and to love and accept ourselves more. This is the road to freedom.”

The worst thing we can do is get angry at ourselves, she said. All the joy goes out of a child if you yell and scream at them. The same thing happens to the little child in us. we lose our joy, spontaneity, creativity. Accept how you are right now, truly loving you. Don’t wait till you lose weight, have the right job. You are denying your existence right now. Don’t wait till you’re perfect. wasting lives..We are always unfolding in the best way we can…When we truly love ourselves no negative patterns can survive.”

Our birthright is to be totally healthy and fulfilled in every area of our lives.”

At 86 years old, Louise said she was still working on improving herself. In a Tapping session with Nick Ortner (EFT) in 2013, she Tapped on a pressure in her neck which often showed up when something nice was about to happen. She traced it back to her step father holding her head under the water, with his thumb in that exact place on her neck.

Psychologist, author, hypnotherapist and leading celebrity therapist, Marissa Peer, is a present-day advocate of SELF-LOVE, with her therapeutic teaching of “I AM ENOUGH”.

She has helped thousands overcome profound personal issues and reveals that her fundamental rule is that all our emotional and personal problems come from us believing that we’re not “enough”.

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Watch her video HERE: The biggest disease affecting humanity: “I’m not Enough”

How to Love Yourself – Getting Started the FasterEFT way.

You need to start by going inside yourself.

This can be a scary idea at first, but it is the only way to truly make significant changes.

If you’re looking for the solution to how to love yourself, this is the only one.

And it is not as scary as you might think.

The unknown is always scarier.

Go inside gently, but do go inside.

You won’t find the answer anywhere else.

Start from where you are right now.

Notice how you feel, notice what bothers you, and then use the FasterEFT process to tap it out until it flips.

Make a list of the things that bother you about yourself – all of the things you don’t like about yourself – and then pick the worst one.

Think about it, and notice how you know it bothers you.

What is it you dislike so much, and why?

Then, tap.

Keep repeating the FasterEFT technique until you can’t find that feeling of being bothered by it anymore.

Keep going until it changes.

Go through the list, doing the same with each thing you don’t like about yourself.

READ MORE HERE…

 

 

 

 

 

DAY 6 – FASTEREFT SUCCESS STORIES

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So what does a FasterEFT session look like? 

Watch Robert G. Smith give a live demonstration of the FasterEFT process. Notice how the laughing here creates bad/ good collapse, and allows an opportunity to disrupt and dump good feelings on the structure of how this woman holds her problem. This is one of many techniques employed for change. Negative beliefs are updated to positive ones.

Watch the video HERE.

Take a look at some of these videos for first hand accounts of success experienced with FasterEFT.

Four women reveal how they recovered from M.E., Fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue, Lyme disease, food sensitivities, adrenal fatigue, irritable bladder, migraines, panic attacks, depression, to name a few!

Watch the video HERE.

Research scientist and Science teacher, Claire overcame 16 years of chronic illness, being wheelchair bound and suicidal. “If you want changes, you’ve got to go to the hard places and Tap that crap out”. Notice how she Taps while she talks.

Watch the video HERE

Lalita found relief from several autoimmune diseases 17 years later with FasterEFT

Watch the video HERE

Roni Valenci tried everything to break free from chronic pain before she found FasterEFT and the start of change at an intensive 5-day retreat in Ireland. After being wheelchair bound she is now walking and dancing.

Watch the video HERE

Nick was a heroin addict who is clean again and says FasterEFT has changed his life. He couldn’t deal with his feelings before learning the technique.

Watch the video HERE

  • It is important to point out while most people achieve noticeable results in their first few FasterEFT sessions, most of the people in these testimonials have had many sessions with trained practitioners, and most often continue to Tap and work on themselves.

 

DAY 5 – YOUR ULTIMATE LIFE

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Credit Within

 

So who are you really?

What is it that you love?

What do you dream of ?

Psychology has revealed that up to 70% of our “learned” behaviours are disempowering, self-sabotaging and limiting. FasterEFT helps you disentangle from what is not essentially you and find the courage to be your true self and live your best life. 

So why is this important? 

When you live an authentic life, you are living a fully expressed life which creates health and happiness. Being in alignment with what you want, you experience fulfilment, and of course, the body follows the mind. Yvette Rose, author of Metaphysical Anatomy, says: “When people move away from what they really want, whether this is conscious or unconscious, their body becomes rigid, resistant, fatigued or depressed, as what they are doing does not resonate with their true passion in life.”

FasterEFT takes you on a journey of self discovery to move you towards living authentically and on your terms.

“Everyday you must transform the unwanted effects of your past and turn them into your dreams. Then you will SOAR!”

Robert G. Smith

A world leader on human behaviour and personal development. Dr John Demartini, says you have to take off the mask, get real and congruent. “Your true power is being just you – not exaggerating yourself or putting yourself down…When you are living from your highest value, you are spontaneously inspired from within to fulfil that…Know thyself, be thyself, love thyself…the secret of mastery. Whatever is highest on your value list that no one has to motivate you to do, that’s it.

Watch THIS interview with Dr Demartini on How To Find Your Mission In Life

Take the test to discover your highest values…

HERE is Dr Demartini’s Value Determination Process

Oprah’s life coach, Harvard-trained sociologist, Martha Beck says: The you that fulfils your destiny cannot be the same you that’s blindfolded by false beliefs.

“Your life is not little, and your playing small doesn’t serve the world. Your living large, on the other hand—your being your true self despite fear, fatigue, doubt, and opposition—will serve the world more than you can imagine. In fact, it may help save it. And saving the world, after all, is what all heroes (including you) are here to do.”

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DAY 4 – THE SCIENCE OF FASTEREFT TAPPING

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DAY 4

THE SCIENCE, HISTORY AND MORE UNDERSTANDING OF eutaptics®/FASTEREFT TAPPING

eutaptics®/FasterEFT was created out of years of studying systems and modalities like EFT, NLP, neuroplasticity, and mindfulness. The strategies, methodologies and techniques involved are backed by science, experience, and results. Read more HERE about the four main elements involved, and the difference between FasterEFT and EFT.

Dr Peta Stapleton, a clinical psychologist, has led Australian research on Tapping and explains why it’s regarded as the fourth wave in healing. She provides details of the resounding success of clinical research done at Bond University on weight loss. Subjects Tapped on food cravings for 15 minutes a day over four weeks and emerged having curbed their cravings for unhealthy food choices.

Watch Dr Stapleton’s TED TALK HERE

The complete results of Dr Stapleton’s pilot program’s preliminary results showed a dramatic reduction in activity in the emotional centre of the brain, responsible for food cravings.

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IT’S ALL ABOUT MEMORIES AND THE WAY WE HOLD THEM

So now to the detail of how eutaptics®/FasterEFT works.

It is an understanding of how and why reconsolidating or updating memories to POSITIVE is necessary to create positive life transformations. A memory is recorded across the cortex. But really it’s not the real experience, it’s just a recording. Inside the memory, it has components that make it seem real – visuals, feelings, sounds and maybe taste and smell. When we address a memory, we address how we encode it in our mind and upgrade it to an empowering one. 

Daniela Schiller, Associate Professor, Mount Sinai Hospital, has done ground breaking research on memory consolidation.

She explains it HERE

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She says memories are unstable and a window of opportunity has been created by nature each time you retrieve a memory, to change the meaning. “We have to relive the bad memories to change our memories. We are free and not slaves to our past.”

Years of research have taught Elizabeth Loftus, a professor of psychology and law at the university of California, just how unreliable our memories are. From tweaking a real memory to planting a completely fabricated one, tampering with our minds is surprisingly easy, she says. In her work, she has proven how human memory is not only unreliable, but also mutable. She is most well-known for her work in criminal law, where she has shown that eyewitness testimony can be manipulated.

HERE IS HER TED TALK.

 

How does this complement what we do in a FasterEFT session?

FasterEFT is an easy to understand, highly effective way of changing how we represent our past.

The science behind fastereft and the nature of working with memories is explained eloquently HERE by Chip Brown, an advanced level 4 FasterEFT practitioner.